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If you decide to get married, you may not only get a new partner for life, but step children that will
become part of your family. This could be a great adventure for both you and your new spouse as
you learn to adjust along with these children in a completely different family environment. This
article will provide several tips on how to deal with and handle these situations that will arise with
the step children.
The age of your stepchildren will play an important role in defining your relationship with them. If
the child is very young, a toddler or even younger, then it's very likely that the child will eventually
think of you as their "real" parent. Go online and talk on the forums to other people who have
assumed the role of stepparent to prepare yourself for the responsibilities you will be assuming. If
your step-kids are older, you will most likely become their friend rather than a parent. The original
parent of teen-aged stepchildren in any new marriage will most likely be the primary parent with
the stepparent assuming a supporting role. Of course, the particular dynamics in each family are
a little different, but the age of the children has a lot to do with how your role as a step parent will
If your step children are teenagers, this is a different situation than becoming a step parent to
young children. Getting a teenage step child to accept you it's probably not going to happen, so
don't worry about it and go with the flow. Although you should be accepting of the situation, you
must also have some amount of power to delegate responsibilities and punishments accordingly.
After all, parents aren't the only authority figures in the lives of children -they also have teachers
and others in the community as well. You must strike a balance as not only as an authority figure
within their lives, but a friend that they can turn to in a time of need. Because these children are in
their teenage years, they will more than likely never except you as a new parent of any kind.
You will have to be very tactful when any discussion about their biological parent comes up. It
doesn't matter if the biological parent has passed on. Your stepchild will still hold them dear in
their thoughts and can even refuse to give him or her up. This situation can become even more
complicated if your new spouse is divorced from the biological mother or father of your
stepchildren and sometimes feels conflicted. You must make it a point to present a positive or
neutral facade when it comes to a biological parent who neglected or abused the kids. Whatever
part the biological parent played in the lives of your stepchildren, you have to respect the kids
right to keep their own version of their memories.
In the final analysis, having a ready-made family will come with it's own set of constraints,
different than those experienced by two people who don't have any children when they marry. In
today's world, 50% of those who marry eventually get a divorce. Also, many people wait to marry
until they are older and, as a consequence, may marry someone who already has children.
Whatever the circumstances, many more marriages today begin with one or the other of the new
spouses - sometimes both - having children from a previous relationship. Two of the biggest skills
you can develop in order to make your new marriage a success and learn how best to fill your role
as step-parent is flexibility and, of course, patience. These will stand you in good stead while you
are discovering what part you will play in the lives of your stepchildren.
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