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I contend that (3) should be called into question because fear is not limited to what can harm you, nor is it limited to what affects ourselves and not others.
OTHERS SANDALS CHURCH INTROduction PAGE 2 The vision of Sandals Church is to be real with ourselves, God and others.
Instead, let’s build networks to meet our needs directly and defend ourselves against everyone who wants to rule us.
In doing so and returning to YHWH’s ways, we may again find ourselves powerful and effective in His redemptive mission.
Limiting beliefs are decisions we make about ourselves and our model of the world that limit the way we live our lives.
Frequent Reception of the Holy Mysteries is Beneficial and Salvific Part II, Chapter 2 from Concerning Frequent Communion by St. Nikodemos the Hagiorite Buy the book from “Uncut Mountain Supply” http://www.uncutmountainsupply.com/proddetail.asp?prod=cfc Webmaster Note: This book should be read by all pious Orthodox Christians. It is not a ʺbook only for clergy.ʺ Rather it is one that contains rich Patristic content, written for all the Faithful, and in a way that moves the heart deeply. It will help you draw closer to God by instructing you in the two‐fold action of regular ascetic struggle and reception of the Holy Mysteries. This book teaches clearly and convincingly that much Grace is given to those who frequently and worthily partake of Holy Communion. In reading this book you will gain a new appreciation for Holy Communion; will increase your efforts to watch over yourself more carefully; and will endeavor to partake whenever possible. What follows is the second of three chapters in Part II, ʺConcerning Frequent Communion.ʺ Take note of the other two chapter titles: ʺIs is necessary for the Orthodox to Partake frequently of the Divine body and blood of our Lord,ʺ and ʺInfrequent Communion causes great harm.ʺ Both the soul and the body of the Christian receive great benefit from the divine Mysteries—before he communes, when he communes, and after he communes. Before one communes, he must perform the necessary preparation, namely, confess to his Spiritual Father, have contrition, amend his ways, have compunction, learn to watch over himself carefully, and keep himself from passionate thoughts (as much as possible) and from every evil. The more the Christian practices self‐control, prays, and keeps vigil, the more pious he becomes and the more he performs every other good work, contemplating what a fearful King he will receive inside of himself. This is even more true when he considers that he will receive grace from Holy Communion in proportion to his preparation. The more often someone prepares himself, the more benefit he receives.  When a Christian partakes of Communion, who can comprehend the gifts and the charismata he receives? Or how can our inept tongue enumerate them? For this reason, let us again bring forward one by one the sacred teachers of the Church to tell us about these gifts, with their eloquent and God‐inspired mouths. Gregory the Theologian says: When the most sacred body of Christ is received and eaten in a proper manner, it becomes a weapon against those who war against us, it returns to God those who had left Him, it strengthens the weak, it causes the healthy to be glad, it heals sicknesses, and it preserves health. Through it we become meek and more willing to accept correction, more longsuffering in our pains, more fervent in our love, more detailed in our knowledge, more willing to do obedience, and keener in the workings of the charismata of the Spirit. But all the opposite happens to those who do not receive Communion in a proper manner.  Those who do not receive Communion frequently suffer totally opposite things, because they are not sealed with the precious blood of our Lord, as the same Gregory the Theologian says: Then the Lamb is slain, and with the precious blood are sealed action and reason, that is, habit and mental activity, the sideposts of our doors. I mean, of course, by doors, the movements and notions of the intellect, which are opened and closed correctly through spiritual vision.  St. Ephraim the Syrian writes: Brothers, let us practice stillness, fasting, prayer, and tears; gather together in the Church; work with our hands; speak about the Holy Fathers; be obedient to the truth; and listen to the divine Scriptures; so that our minds do not become barren (and sprout the thorns of evil thoughts). And let us certainly make ourselves worthy of partaking of the divine and immaculate Mysteries, so that our soul may be purified from thoughts of unbelief and impurity, and so that the Lord will dwell within us and deliver us from the evil one. The divine Cyril of Alexandria says that, because of divine Communion, those noetic thieves the demons find no opportunity to enter into our souls through the senses: You must consider your senses as the door to a house. Through the senses all images of things enter into the heart, and, through the senses, the innumerable multitude of lusts pour into it. The Prophet Joel calls the senses windows, saying: They shall enter in at our windows like a thief (Jl. 2:9), because these windows have not been marked with the precious blood of Christ. Moreover, the Law commanded that, after the slaughter (of the lamb), the Israelites were to smear the doorposts and the lintels of their houses with its blood, showing by this that the precious blood of Christ protects our own earthly dwelling‐place, which is to say, our body, and that the death brought about by the transgression is repelled through our enjoyment of the partaking of life (that is, of life‐giving Communion). Further, through our sealing (with the blood of Christ) we distance from ourselves the destroyer.  The same divine Cyril says in another place that, through Communion, we are cleansed from every impurity of soul and receive eagerness and fervor to do good: The precious blood of Christ not only frees us from every corruption, but it also cleanses us from every impurity lying hidden within us, and it does not allow us to grow cold on account of sloth, but rather makes us fervent in the Spirit.  St. Theodore the Studite wondrously describes the benefit one receives from frequent Communion: Tears and contrition have great power. But the Communion of the sanctified Gifts, above all, has especially great power and benefit, and, seeing that you are so indifferent towards it and do not frequently receive it, I am in wonder and great amazement. For I see that you only receive Communion on Sundays, but, if there is a Liturgy on any other day, you do not commune, though when I was in the monastery each one of you had permission to commune every day, if you so desired. But now the Liturgy is less frequently celebrated, and you still do not commune. I say these things to you, not because I wish for you simply to commune—haphazardly, without preparation (for it is written: But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the Bread, and drink of the Cup. For he that eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not discerning the Lords body and blood [1 Cor. 11:2829]). No, I am not saying this. God forbid! I say that we should, out of our desire for Communion, purify ourselves as much as possible and make ourselves worthy of the Gift. For the Bread which came down from heaven is participation in life: If any man eat of this bread, he shall live for ever: and the bread that I will give is My flesh, which I will give for the life of the world (Jn. 6:51). Again He says: He that eateth My flesh, and drinketh My blood, dwelleth in Me, and I in him (Jn. 6:58). Do you see the ineffable gift? He not only died for us, but He also gives Himself to us as food. What could show more love than this? What is more salvific to the soul? Moreover, no one fails to partake every day of the food and drink of the common table. And, if it happens that someone does not eat, he becomes greatly dismayed. And we are not speaking here about ordinary bread, but about the Bread of life; not about an ordinary cup, but about the Cup of immortality. And do we consider Communion an indifferent matter, entirely unnecessary? How is this thought not irrational and foolish? If this is how it has been up until now, my children, I ask that we henceforth take heed to ourselves, and, knowing the power of the Gift, let us purify ourselves as much as possible and partake of the sanctified Things. And if it happens that we are occupied with a handicraft, as soon as we hear the sounding‐board calling us to Church, let us put our work aside and go partake of the Gift with great desire. And this (that is, frequent Communion) will certainly benefit us, for we keep ourselves pure through our preparation for Communion. If we do not commune frequently, it is impossible for us not to become subject to the passions. Frequent Communion will become for us a companion unto eternal life.  So, my brothers, if we practice what the divine Fathers have ordered and frequently commune, we not only will have the support and help of divine grace in this short life, but also will have the angels of God as helpers, and the very Master of the angels Himself. Furthermore, the inimical demons will be greatly distanced from us, as the divine Chrysostom says: Let us then return from that Table like lions breathing fire, having become fearsome to the devil, thinking about our Head (Christ) and the love He has shown for us. This blood causes the image of our King to be fresh within us, it produces unspeakable beauty, and, watering and nourishing our soul frequently, it does not permit its nobility to waste away. This blood, worthily received, drives away demons and keeps them far from us, while it calls to us the angels and the Master of angels. For wherever they see the Masters blood, devils flee and angels run to gather together. This blood is the salvation of our souls. By it the soul is washed, is made beautiful, and is inflamed; and it causes our intellect to be brighter than fire and makes the soul gleam more than gold....Those who partake of this blood stand with the angels and the powers that are above, clothed in the kingly robe itself, armed with spiritual weapons. But I have not yet said anything great by this: for they are clothed even with the King Himself.  Do you see, my beloved brother, how many wonderful charismata you receive if you frequently commune? Do you see that with frequent Communion the intellect is illumined, the mind is made to shine, and all of the powers of the soul are purified? If you also desire to kill the passions of the flesh, go to Communion frequently and you will succeed. Cyril of Alexandria confirms this for us: Receive Holy Communion believing that it liberates us not only from death, but also from every illness. And this is because, when Christ dwells within us through frequent Communion, He pacifies and calms the fierce war of the flesh, ignites piety toward God, and deadens the passions.  Thus, without frequent Communion we cannot be freed from the passions and ascend to the heights of dispassion; just as the Israelites, if they had not eaten the passover in Egypt, would not have been able to be freed. For Egypt means an impassioned life, and if we do not frequently receive the precious body and blood of our Lord (every day if it be possible), we will not be able to be freed from the noetic Pharaonians (that is, the passions and the demons). According to Cyril of Alexandria, As long as those of Israel were slaves to the Egyptians, they slaughtered the lamb and ate the passover. This shows that the soul of man cannot be freed from the tyranny of the devil by any other means except the partaking of Christ. For He Himself says: If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed (Jn. 8:36).  Again St. Cyril says, They had to sacrifice the lamb, being that it was a type of Christ, for they could not have been freed by any other means.  So if we also desire to flee Egypt, namely, dark and oppressive sin, and to flee Pharaoh, that is, the noetic tyrant (according to Gregory the Theologian),  and inherit the land of the heart and the promise, we must
I would be lying to you and to ourselves not to finally announce what’s impossible to avoid anymore.
#BeYOU2ful Challenge by Tamara LevinsonCampos (@cuchira on IG) edited and compiled by @_palindromia_ Instructions ATTENTION ALL #BeYOU2ful WARRIORS! Tomorrow morning you will start your month long journey by reading your first challenge, which you will post about the morning after. Some challenges require a daily activity, which you then journal about at night & VLOG about the following morning as you discover the next challenge for the day. Yes, this is a commitment! It's not gonna be easy but I promise it will be healing. It took lots of time to create these blocks in our lives, it's only fair we commit time, work and patience to UNblock. You deserve to do this for yourself & move forward refreshed & reminded what a badass you are. If you haven't already made your PROMISE TO YOURSELF that you will see this Movement through NO MATTER WHAT, then there is no time like RIGHT NOW! COMMIT TO SELF LOVE! Tag @cuchira #BeYOU2ful in your posts. To see more details about the #BeYOU2ful Movement, click the hashtag & read the caption, Or go to my YouTube channel, which you can access via www.Yogance.com. FOR ALL THOSE PARTICIPATING, HERE IS YOUR WARMUP QUESTION. What does BeYOUtiful mean to you? Post a picture of yourself and answer in the caption below so we can all start meeting each other. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dcYuIA17zo DAY 1 Welcome Warriors! Promise yourself no matter how hard this gets, how much you do NOT want to do a challenge,YOU WON'T BACK DOWN TO YOUR FEARS! Don't let them win yet again! Everything you need to get through this is inside of you,TRUST IT! I'll always be a post ahead of you. I'll post in the mornings or late nights. Make sure to check in because some challenges require the day to execute. Sometimes I'll do the challenge along with you & other times I'll guide you through them. There's good reason for that, I wouldn't ask you to do anything I haven't already done. When journaling EXTREME HONESTY IS CRUCIAL! DO NOT SKIP THE JOURNALING! if you skip it you won't be able to complete the challenge. Allow every single thought on the page! No editing yourself!READ MY CAPTIONS CAREFULLY as they're all different.Tag @cuchira #BeYOU2ful , building a community is a HUGE part of this movement. If you don't tag,we can't support each other. VIDEO/PHOTO: For this particular challenge VIDEO yourself (TODAY at some point) BEFORE YOU JOURNAL TONIGHT, then post it in the morning. Flip the camera so it's facing you (most challenges will be done speaking into camera unless otherwise specified). Stare INTO CAMERA for a LONG WHILE, as long as it takes to feel calm. No words,no sound,NO MAKE UP,NO FILTERS! Consider this a silent,raw, introduction to your fellow warriors & yourself. All barriers down. Allow whatever comes up,to come up. Post 15 secs of that clip in the morning after journaling. Look back at the full video before journaling tonight(you must film yourself BEFORE you journal for this particular challenge). JOURNAL & CAPTION: When you look at yourself what do you see?How does it make you feel?What do you see in your eyes?BE HONEST!When you post in the morning,your caption can be on your experience &/or quoting impactful parts of your journaling.Be true to YOU ONLY!Hope everyone will be kind but if negative comments arise,that's part of the self love journey.When you love you,nothing can break you!The world isn't always kind,we need to learn how to brush things off.My mantra is always available... #FUCKit IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/tvuYLTUn/ DAY 2 IG has a reputation for being fake,only choosing to show the glamorized versions of ourselves but behind those good looking pics,there's REAL people that might appear 'perfect' from the outside but inside,WE ALL FEEL! #WeAreOne Thanks to all for being unapologetically YOU!It's refreshing & profoundly inspiring to see & read true, raw, real beauty as you warriors demonstrated with such grace.I'm overwhelmed with love for all of you!I hope you understand how powerful & needed your voice is! Some of you have expressed fear about relating an "unstable" version of you,to the people that know/follow you. Just look at all our faces,there's nothing unstable about us,we're just fucking BRAVE & REAL!Unstable is the person who hides behind lies & stuffs up all their fears until they blow up. Showing your unapologetic truth is stability in its most courageous form.YOU are an inspiration to others that are still too afraid to face themselves.You're choosing to look fear in the face & fight for a better you!That's admirable. CHALLENGE: PLEASE READ INSTRUCTIONS CAREFULLY. Click on our hashtag #BeYOU2ful & look through our gallery .REPOST A VIDEO of a fellow warrior in our tribe that speaks most to you(repost app is free) JOURNAL: Write about what sparked in you as you saw the faces of your fellow Warriors & read their words?What do you see in their eyes?What do you feel from their words?How do you relate?What does it inspire in you? #cuchithoughts : I chose @sototarot cause he was so damn raw/honest! PLEASE GO TO HIS PAGE & READ HIS CAPTION. Many of us can relate to his thoughts. Seems so violent & mean yet many abuse ourselves daily in this nature. You wouldn't even say those things to your worst enemy yet we choose to believe it of ourselves. The way we speak to ourselves can change everything. Time to choose love. CAPTION: Why did you choose to repost that particular warrior? IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/wilJNrTZT/ DAY 3 Many of you wrote in Challenge1 that you saw age take its course,time wasted,a tired soul, sadness, hate,flaws.Some wrote that even within all that shit you could see potential or your true essence within.Some of you asked "I wonder what other people see when they look at me?", & THAT warriors, is Challenge 3. VERY IMPORTANT: Write in your journal BEFORE YOU POST! I try to post a day ahead in the mornings (even though there's obvious time differences) to give you guys ample time to reflect, in writing, at night & read it back to yourselves with a fresh brain that following morning before you post. A lot of healing happens in this process.Write even if you think you have nothing to say. You must vomit your unedited thoughts on the page, even if they are evil or make no sense. Only after this cleanse has been done & marinaded with some good ol sleep, reread in the morning with a fresh brain, should you post. JOURNAL: "What do you think people see when they look at you?" BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY HONEST! CAPTION: Quote your journal,write about revelations that have arisen OR simply answer the question VIDEO/PHOTO: Picture of you in a bathing suit or naked like Mama Cuchira cause why the fuck not. EVERYBODY RELAX! (cue everyone freaking out & quitting day 3 lol). I can hear it now,"Butt naked on day 3, damn Cuchi!" It’s important to accept ALL OF US, body, mind & soul. It's all connected. You can't love one without the other. It all makes up YOU. You came into this world naked. Your body has seen you through to this point.It’s gone through things, maybe brought another life, transformed,been judged, punished, told it's not worthy or maybe you can accept it has served you well & done its deed. Wherever you are, like it or not, your body ain't going anywhere...it's attached to your head. The body is the most exceptional work of art to ever exist. Nudity goes WAY beyond sexuality, it's YOU in your purest form, so I ask, what's so wrong with you? What's so shameful about you? I'll answer that, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! #cuchithoughts : When I was younger I was PAINFULLY shy. I wore turtlenecks so I could hide. I'd sit in the back corner of class, shaking, terrified the teacher would ask me a question & I would be 'seen'. I have dyslexia, I feared l'd be called upon & my peers would think I'm stupid. Truth is, no one was thinking anything, these were my own fears I was manifesting. Eventually I couldn't deal with it anymore. I felt like I had so much to offer, if didn't take that turtleneck off it would suffocate me to death before I got a chance to shine my light. So I got naked, literally. The turtleneck came off, I burned it. NEVER AGAIN! I'm naked ALL THE DAMN TIME! In every sense of that word: NAKED! It feels free. I don't care who sees me or what they think, IT’S ME & there's no shame in being ME! Remember, it doesn't matter what shape or size you are, what differences we have, what changes our bodies have taken on through our journey, it's all perspective. So I ask you to take off your turtlenecks. Use your body as the masterpiece it is & create art with it! I TRUST THAT YOU WILL DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU, "you" is the key word. This journey is for YOU. "SELF" love. Remember, you knew it would be hard, you knew you would be challenged, you signed up cause you want to look at yourself in EVERY WAY, free YOUrself, #fuckit ! I look forward to reading your thoughts on what you think people see when they look at you, as we admire your beauty shining in your most BeYOUtiful outfit you'll ever wear... YOUR SKIN. #BeYOU2ful PS: I just love looking through our gallery. OH ANNNND.... For some seriously amazing inspiration of self love after surviving difficulty in her life AND inspiration for beautiful nude postures check out my girl @heidiwilliams89 on Instagram. IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/y3JqRLTcE/ https://www.instagram.com/p/y3FxJLTb8/ DAY 4 Bravo to all of you for hanging in there through the Nudey Challenge (that's usually where I lose everyone).Keep em coming & keep shining!It's pretty safe to say we're a hot ass tribe!I understand deep emotions are coming up,but that's why we're here together.To drop the baggage,so can we stop infesting our insides & weighing ourselves down with negativity.This is how we heal & quickly realize we are not alone. Thank you to our fellow warriors expressing love & support through the journey.You guys are wonderful. We've explored bit of the inside & a lot of the outside, yet a formal introduction hasn't even been made...typical. I've always found formal introductions to be fake & boring.We say "Hi, I'm (insert your name here),it's nice to meet you"(Cue fake smile).We introduce ourselves w/ our names, that don't define us or say anything about who we are,followed by small talk that is based off no substance, "what do you do", "where do you live"... Blah,blah...We've "met" each other but we didn't connect & connection is the root of love. Today's challenge is Mama Cuchira's No Shiz introduction JOURNAL: Do you feel differently inside then the way you present yourself to others? Why?Explore this topic. Also allow the things that have come up in the past few days to enter or leave your thoughts as needed on the page CAPTION: Write want you discovered from your journaling &/or quote directly from your journal. VIDEO/PHOTO: Introduce yourself to our #BeYOU2ful tribe as such:"I am(noun or adjective that introduces you, NOT your name).I may appear _____ but I am _____.Do not ____ for I will be forced to _____ and ____.I come forth with ____. Do NOT to watch any other posts from your fellow warriors until you have posted your own.It's easy to unconsciously formulate an idea of what you think you should say based on the other videos, instead of staying true to YOU.Keep this in mind from now on as we start speaking more into camera.It all must come from YOU. Post 1st,then have fun exploring the minds of your fellow warriors. Remember to ALWAYS JOURNAL 1st!Be honest, stay true to YOU, get creative, explore,release,be unapologetic,have fun #FUCKit IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/1h1JCrTVY/ DAY 5 Humans are widely complex! Scroll down our #BeYOU2ful feed & it's evident how multifaceted we are.We're limitless.There's no beginning or end to who we are & what we can accomplish!Everyday we wake up,we have something new to offer.We are as ever changing as our planet.To define ourselves in just 1 way (i.e. I'm nice,I'm pretty,I'm shy)is incredibly false & limiting.Unfortunately,as life goes by we/others place labels on us #labelssuck which enables 1 personality to become prominent.We convince ourselves that's who we are & paint only within those lines.In doing so we forget all the other characters that lie within us that make us colorful! JOURNAL: Breakdown all the characters that live inside of you.Who are they?What are their characteristics?What purpose do they serve? CAPTION: Name your characters,explain who they are,where they live in you & how they serve you. VIDEO/PHOTO: Take pics of you as your inner characters #cuchithoughts : My Character breakdowns:1) BAGGY:Colorful comfort is the name of her game.She chooses her wardrobe by closing her eyes & picking the 1st thing she grabs.She's being alone in the comfort of her own thoughts.A quiet mind.She hides away not cause fears anything but because she indulges her own company.Her favorite thing is going to the movies alone. 2) ELVA:She's fascinated w/ life after death (not in a dark sense).Other worlds,other possibilities intrigue her,why we do what we do & never seem to be satisfied with what we have.She's contemplating the dark side of human nature.Although she may appear 'dark', there's a lightness in her that contradicts her outer appearance. 3) POWER:Power is pure strength in every sense of the word,determined,focused.She never gives up,no matter what!Excuses piss her off.She's hardcore! Eye on the prize,no looking back.Consistency is her best friend.She thrives off accomplishing feats others deem as impossible.She gets shit done! 4) PETUÑIA: (pictured in first post) Shakti power present. A feminine force that can't be fucked with.Don’t confuse her seductress ways w/ submissiveness for there's nothing submissive about her.She's in control,strong,FEMALE & drives her badass ride solely powered up from her Mula Bhanda. 5) DR. CUCHI:Not man nor woman,no color or culture,no religion or spiritual belief, undefined by unnecessary labels.Doc is a neutral force,a humanitarian.A freedom fighter who's only purpose in earth is to fight for equal rights of everything living, so I guess humananimalrian would be a more appropriate term.One love 6⃣ WILD CHI:Saucy little thing.Doesn't hold back a thing.Speaks her mind,spicy, saucy,sassy,sexy,just Ssssssizzling!She's hilarious!People say she's wild but she only does crazy Shiz it to make you laugh,although secretly,she likes being
In those moments, we tend to “start from the bottom” and ask ourselves how we are going to make it through.
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We want to give ourselves enough time to write the report properly, to set aside money for retirement, but our desires shift as the long run becomes the short run.
With the economic downturn, countries like Greece, Spain, Italy but also the United States are demonstrating the precursors of what is coming our way – the system by which we organize ourselves, our finances and markets, is beyond repair and we must take those hard questions seriously for the good of all.
RAMSAY We must fight on the morrow. But we should defend this position we have, rather than risk stretching ourselves too far. Keep fighting a defensive, and wait for an opening. If we commit ourselves too early, we will be slaughtered.
exgirlfriend is a diverse group of emerging, mid, and established artists, curators, gallerists, and writers which form “us”, or more understandably, exgirlfriend’s initial curatorial board. We ourselves are proposing an amorphous, residencyish, transitory form. Our curatorial committee will continue to change and grow as our network grows, thinking of the gallery as being only one initial “space" to materialise ourselves as a body. Like other networks in their inception, this makes us not easily definable. Best described as an internet in it’s infancy and pre imagery, we rely on participation from our current shared networks to start a trajectory that can be pushed along or shoved against. Every artist that exhibits in the space will have an opportunity to serve on the curatorial board, if desired, for as long or as little as they want. A list of the individuals participating in the current manifestation of the committee will soon be made available to the public in order to help inform or complicate the question of "who are we and what are we doing?”. When it comes to the "ethos" or "mission" of the gallery, we aim to function more like an online message thread gone awry than a traditional gallery space. Dialogues created can go in depth, shift, or be interjected at any moment. all the best EXG
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While there are certain situations where it’s healthy to experience emotions such as sadness or grief, there are many other times when we allow ourselves to remain in these negative states in an unhealthy way.
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When we open ourselves up to giving and receiving love, we make ourselves vulnerable.